Our Mission

To provide a safe, supportive enviroment and promote community awarness to prevent family violence by empowering women and children in abusive situations.

Crisis Line

crisislinePhone:
645-5195
Toll Free:
1-800-263-3045
24 hours

If you are in immediate danger call 911

ROLES CHILDREN MAY ASSUME WHEN THERE IS FAMILY VIOLENCE IN THE HOME

KEY POINTS ABOUT FAMILY ROLES:

  • a role may be imposed on a child or it may be assumed by the child
  • children can play more than one role
  • children may play roles during abusive incidents (e.g., referee, rescuer, distractor, caretaker of younger siblings)

EXAMINING FAMILY ROLES IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE:

  • it helps to understand how a child interprets and copes with violence
  • it helps to understand how different children in the same family can have different understandings of what is happening in their homes

Examples of roles played by children when there is family violence in their home:

CARETAKER

  • acts as a parent to younger siblings and mother
  • may oversee routines and household responsibilites
  • helps to keep siblings safe during a violent incident an comfort them afterwards

MOTHER'S CONFIDANT

  • the child who is privy to Mom's feelings, concerns and plans
  • after witnessing an abusive incident, the child's recollections may serve as a "reality check" for Mother, if the abuser later minimizes or lies about the event

ABUSER'S CONFIDANT

  • the child who is treated better by the abuser and most likely told his justifications for abuse
  • may be asked to report back on Mother's behavior and be rewarded for doing so

PERFECT CHILD

  • the child who tries to prevent violence by actively addressing issues perceived as triggers for violence
  • excelling in school, never agruing, rebelling, misbehaving or seeking help of any kind for their own problems

REFEREE

  • the child who mediates and tries to keep the peace

SCAPEGOAT

  • the child identified as the cause of family problems, blamed for tension between the parents
  • the child may have special needs or be a step-child to the abuser

 

credit to:  Helping Children Thrive, Supporting Woman Abuse Survivors as Mothers

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